I was married 23 years ago to my uncles daugter.The proposal was from their side. I was not fully ready to be married.My wifes fathers mother insisted for the early marriage. I just compleeted my graduation and was unemployeed. When i insisted for postponement it was not accepted.Even my parents insisted. I was told that arragements made for the marriage cannot be cancelled. After marriage I found that my wife is not upto my expectations and also her mentality is totally different from me. she argue with me in different matters and never conviced. such as the matter of my parents behaviour with her and my inlaws negligence towards me. I hardly used to visit inlaws just once a year. My uncle used to be abroad. What i felt my inlaws just wanted a relation for their daughter but they never behaved with love. The other son in laws of my uncle are very open hearted. they donot shy. My brother in laws are also reserved type of persons. What should i do to save myself and my children?
Labiba R
even if your in-laws cannot speak openly ,u can, can't you? just speak ur mind..tell them exactly what u're thinking off them..i know thats really hard but as the saying goes-the truth can hurt..but sometimes saying the truth can save u from a lot of trouble and can take a huge burden off ur shoulders
kathyw
You have been married 23 years? Your children will be leaving the nest soon, I'm guessing - within the next 10 years at most. You want to make some sense of your marriage now. All you have been saying are the bad things about your marriage. But there are good things too. You could go to marital counseling, or you could seek help from your religion.
You don't need to save yourself. You are fine. You have a wife and a history with her and a future with her. That future can be a very good one if you are willing to work on it with her. Your children will be off and living their own lives and making marriages. Your lives will change. There are a lot of good things coming up ahead for the both of you. Be patient and you will enjoy much more.
Orignal From: I have problems in my personal life. My in-laws are adament fellows. They never speek openly. Any solutions?
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