I became pregnant during my legal separation this past summer. The man who is the biological father is a convicted child molester. I live in the state of Wisconsin and he was convicted of criminal sexual conduct in the 1st degree. I know, bad choice of someone to 'date.' I ended our 'not so serious' relationship early on but before I found out I was pregnant because of many reasons. 1) He's a freak! 2)He's abusive 3) He drinks daily 4) He was obsessive 5) I was not in love with him but still in love with my husband 6) He's just not a good moral person. I am currently back with my husband and we have postponed the divorce. What my question is, is how can I prevent the bioplogical father from having visitation? I would think being a child molestor would be enough. I just pray that the bio father just walks away and I won't have to deal with him. Being with this man was a HUGE mistake and it makes me sick to my stomach even remembering being with him. Any advice is appreciated.
FYI - I was on birth control. Nothing is 100% effective. Yes, the bio father knows about the pregnancy but I do not want him involved physically or financially. He has a record of molesting a child and I DO NOT want him involved in this child's life for the safety of this child.
Abortion is NOT the answer. God creates miracles, not mistakes.
josh
Does he know that you are pregnant? If not, I wouldnt tell him.
Barry C
> I found out I was pregnant because of many reasons. 1) He's a freak! 2)He's abusive 3) He drinks daily 4) He was obsessive 5) I was not in love with him but still in love with my husband 6) He's just not a good moral person.
How about "YOU had unprotected sex with the guy"?
> What my question is, is how can I prevent the biological father from having visitation? I
Abortion is very effective for that, and is probably your only remedy.
> Being with this man was a HUGE mistake and it makes me sick to my stomach even remembering being with him. Any advice is appreciated.
Counseling can help with that.
You think, as it stands now, having a child with this guy won;t remind you of that every day, and won't remind your husband, no matter how good a father he is, of it every day? Or any future kids (assuming there aren't any already) won;t wonder about why their brother or sister has a different father or why the family is keeping a big secret?
Like I said, mistakes happen, abortion will clear the mistake, and if it is traumatic too, at least it will affect just you, and you can receive counseling for that as well.
raichasays
In the US, if this child was conceived during your marriage, your state's laws may give you a "leg up" by presuming that your husband is the father of this child.
This creates at least one legal hurdle for someone else who might claim to be the father.
But if Chester Molester returns, fight him in court on the paternity issue. If he is found to be the father, demand child support.
As for visitation, you will not be able to completely terminate a biological father's rights unless and until you can show that he is a danger to this child, not just children generally. Sex offenders are allowed to have and live with their own children.
However, his criminal history should be a winning argument that his visitation should be limited and supervised at all times by a court officer at a neutral location.
Also, if you are going to have this child, please consider placing it for adoption. You may need Chester's cooperation with this, but look into it. As other posters have said, you and your husband have a lot of work to do to repair your marriage. It will be very hard and this child may suffer. Adoption will allow the child to have two parents that are free from this drama.
Please see a lawyer in your area as soon as possible to have all of your options explained before this baby arrives.
Evelyne L
you cant do anything to prohibit a biological father from having rights to his child unless there is good reason, i think this is one of them, when the time comes take the proof you have to court and have his visitation put down on paper, supervised if any!! if he is what you say he is then the courts will rule in the childs favor. good luck!
cassiepiehoney
when the baby is born give him your husbands name and put him down as the father. If the molester wants custody he'll have to go to court and get a dna test-then court for the petition for custody at which point you have your lawyer tell them he's been convicted of molestation and wont receive anything.
Meeshi
You should talk to a lawyer. If he has been convicted of Child Molestation I dont see it being hard to take away his rights as a father. I would begin the legal stuff now. No judge in their right mind would allow him to have any sort of visitation/custody of a child.
You could also talk to this guy about just signing over his rights once the baby is born.
Good luck!
BradleysStar
It's great you have the courage to keep your child under the circumstances. I think his being a convicted child molested would be enough to keep him away form the child. Best of luck to you.
I'm not really evil, I promise.
I believe his record of being a child molester will help you if you want to go to court to ensure that he doesn't have contact, or that he only has SUPERVISED contact wth the child....
And for "Barry"....Abortion will not "clear a mistake"...it is murder.
mylittletribe
You need to find a good family law attorney. Generally, the court will not completey prohibit contact with a parent unless there are serious mitigating circumstances, and if he is a convicted sex offender with a history of abuse, the court may think it's best to protect the child. Be prepared for supervised visitation, if you do go to court.
Good luck.
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