My father has recently passed away. I was very close to him. More so than you could ever imagine. When I visited my relatives in India, he actually had a panic attack and went to the hospital. He loved me more than his own life. He had a mental illness that he took medication for. He once told me that I was the thing that was keeping him alive. He was very sincere when he said that. I have never been close to my mom though. Quite the opposite. She once called the police to take me away to a foster home. Thankfully, her friend was staying with us (after my father's death) and stopped everything and helped me. She yells so much. She always talks on the phone and never to me, and trust me when I say that I tried. When she is on the phone, which is every minute she is awake, she talks so loudly. I can't even sleep. I am in the sixth grade. If I ask her to quiet down a little bit, she yells at me. Once she came into the hallway by my room and started talking. She was loud. She didn't even want to move and she just kept talking. I had to change rooms. I changed rooms about three times that night. This situation happens quite often. How can i get through to her? She is just being so loud and frankly rude to me. She doesn't respect me at all. She doesn't care if I get my sleep. She had three car accidents and she says she is suffering, and I don't doubt her. She says that she shouldn't suffer but that I should. She hurts me emotionally so much. My brother even hates being here. Luckily, he lives in Atlanta and is graduating college in December of 2009. I hate all this crap. I can't take it. I do love her though. I really do care for her and I hate to see her hurt, but she is hurting me. This is not right. She did the same thing to my dad and I hated to see that happen. She is supporting me though. I am living comfortably (materialistic wise). She is a doctor.
My main question is how should I deal with her rudeness, loudness, and this loss. This has been going on for 2 yrs but it intensed on Aug. 31 when my father passed away due to malpractice.
Please no grin and bear answers.
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Watch George Lopez.
He is of great help.
tahiera
Rudeness: If she's doing something that bothers you, don't yell at her right while she's doing it. Explain to her later that sometimes she's loud and you need to concentrate on your homework or sleep. Channel your anger into something else because getting mad at her is like fighting a brick wall.
Loudness: You need earplugs. They help, seriously.
The loss: Really only time. It's ok that you're grieving for your dad, he sounds like a great person. There isn't any shortcut to get over that kind of loss. Just hold on to your memories and let his love inspire you and try to be the person he would have wanted you to be.
wicked.Tiffany
I feel your pain. My mom does the same thing. I've gotten to the point where I hate her. If I were you just ignore her, dont try to reason with her. Its just going to hurt you. If shes like my mom she has a mental problem. You should talk to someone at your school. There is a RO at my school that I talk to about stuff and I trust him. Find someone that you can talk to. See if you could go live with your brother maybe?
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You might talk to a guidance counselor at school or a trusted adult. They might be able to talk to her for you. It sounds like your mom is under a lot of stress and grief also. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.
ritenow50
Your Mom apparently is not aware of all the anguish that you are going through with. Have you ever tried talking with her about all of these things that are troubling you? Be honest and upfront with her. I have an article that you could read and share with her. Hopefully, the information can make a difference. See the website listed below:
How to Have a great Mother-Daughter Relationship ...
http://www.ehow.com/how_4593402_have-great-motherdaughter-relationship.html.
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