for several years I have been suffering for the screw ups that my husband makes, I have lost alot these past 2 years over it, left him twice to prove a point, and he still continues to mess up, even tho he tells me not to worry he can fix things and won't keep screwing up. I have medical problems due to stress cause by all this or this life, and not sure if I should leave again and this time for good or what.
he seems to have to many childish ways and I just can't deal with them anymore.
Cali(yo)
What kind of mistakes? Cheating? Abuse? Drugs? It depends on the situation's severity whether or not you are right to break your vows to one another.
420 circle
Sweetie, get the heck out of there, it's only gonna get much worse.
cppdummy
I'm so glad to hear that you are perfect. You don't make mistakes...
Love doesn't keep score.... apparently, you do.
tray
tell him to fuck off,this guy is going to waste years of your life,just like my ex did,take control be strong and move on.your worth so much more ..gosh from what you state he sounds just like my sociapath ex. despite us not being a item he attempts to control me now.do yourself a favour get out and have the last laugh
Seeker
Before you decide to leave, you must do more. Go to a marriage therapist. What are the scrww ups? Perhaps you're expecting too much from him. Ignore some of the mess ups. Help him to work on some others. And don't tolerate those that really are messing things up. Get professional help for your medical problems. Tell your doctor what is going on.
Go for a drive. Get out of the house. Go where you can be alone and just relax. Keep a journal. Pray. Read the Bible. Meditate.
coffsfis
Unfortunately or fortunately people change, we mature as we grow older and wiser, my opinion is you have become older and wiser, your partner hasnt "grown up yet".
You could stay with him and try to accept him for how he is or........... take a risk and try another guy, girl, there are no guarantees in this world.
Best of luck with your decision, always try to stay positive, you are smart because you have already recognised that there is a problem, cheers
ladyG
The solution to this would be God.
Just pray and have faith. God will
do the job and fix everything.
Talk it out with your husband. Be
very serious about this with him.
Because i do understand at some
point your going to get tired. I learned
that problems like this and putting up with
it after all turn ou great. With years of
Marriage...
MM
The only point you proved by leaving twice was that he could keep on screwing up, because you'd still take him back in spite of the frustration. Take your time to figure out what you really want and what's actually in your power to get without depending on him changing; try counseling (either joint or individual) if you need to talk through some possibilities and strategies. But if you go again, stay gone.
Liz
You are not suffering for your husband's mistakes. You have left him twice and gone back to him although nothing had changed. D'uh!!! Clearly you are suffering due to your own mistake of staying with him for as long as you have.
Saya
It's called divorce, use it.
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