my daughter is 10 yrs old, 5ft tall, and weighs 170lbs. she gained 26lbs in 18 months. it is not a medical issue. she has been considered odese she was 4. every time a doctor has said that, my x takes her to a different doctor. 4 doctors have said obese. if my x was told about this, and did nothing.......is that considered neglect. also, the dentist says she has very bad oral hygiene(not brushing). i thought a parent needs to enforce that? is that considered neglect?
boohoo_Jebus
Yes. I'd call CPS.
Kitty
i would say yes, b/c 170 lbs at 10 yrs old is only going to lead to death at a very early age! and if your x does nothing about it, it is neglecting your daughters needs. you should take her to court, she may be an unfit mother, there may be other issues that you don;t know about.
Lard Tacos: The Rebirth
Yes, that is neglectful behavior on the parent's part.
3mom
It should be but it is not. It is not illegal to feed your kids junk or not make them brush their teeth.
It however, could have bearing in a custody fight to prove that the other parent is unfit.
duh
In the informal use of the word, marginally neglectful.
In the legal use, no. You would need much more negative info to prove legal neglect rather than just poor judgment on a few topics.
How are the school grades? Teacher feedback? social skills? personal appearance, positive attitude?
Valentines baby on the way
She is your daughter too so why are YOU letting your daughter be obese and not get proper dental work? Its not all up to your ex to raise your daughter.
Theresa
I believe that a parent that will let their child get to the point of obesity is actually abusive- They are putting that child into many risky situations as she grows up; ie. bullying from other children, health issues etc. It is not fair to the child at all. Although the parent is not putting blue/black marks on the child physically, they are putting those marks on them emotionally and mentally by not caring for them properly.
I would say that the x should be taken back to court for custody; after documenting as much as possible to prove your allegations.
good luck
jhtmom
Maybe a bit lazy and unfit but I don't think it is legally neglect. If you are concerned and want to do something about this try going back to court and get residential custody of your child it may not happen and you may need a lot of proof of more then just dirty teeth and over weight. Your daughter is 10, and I am sure she knows right from wrong try talking to her and explain to her how unhealthy it is for her to be so over weight and let her know that you love her, and want to help her be healthy. Try teaching her things she can do with out your x's help to be more healthy. Like if they go to a fast food restaurant for dinner tell her what she can get that would be a better choice, get her involved with a sport you don't have to be the residential parent to teach her these things all you have to do is follow up every time you see her and talk to her. For instance my children go to there dad's house on the weekends and he lets them stay up as late as they want, they come home crabby and tired, and stay this way for a few days, so I have tough them that they need to be responsible for themselves and go to bed when they start getting tired. If you use this same idea with your daughter then she will learn to be healthy her entire life, if you just sit back and blame your x then no one wins.
storyinthephoto
okay so where have you been ? If my kid got that fat that quick, the EX would be infront of a judge and losing custody.
Far as im concerned, YOURE both being neglectful, save your daughter now
Jessica S
Legally, that is not even close to being neglect. Not by a long shot.
Morally, it might be a little questionable, but their may be some other contributing factors to her obesity and/or poor dental hygiene.
First, Some girls start the early stages of puberty around 10 ( I know, scary) and with that comes a significant weight gain.
She might also have a genetic predisposition to being a little larger then normal, while also having a bacterial imbalance. ( which would cause her teeth to have more plaque and tartar)
As for your your ex switching doctor's there is nothing wrong with getting a second, third, or fourth opinion. There are some doctors out there that put extra pressure on parents for their children to lose weight even though it is medically unnecessary. Which can be quite uncomfortable for some parents and children.
Also, if she had such terrible dental hygiene she would have a mouth full of cavities. ( Which you didn't mention) What ten year-old wants to brush their teeth. It can be quite easy for a girl that age to fake brushing her teeth. ( I know, I use to do it as a kid wetting the toothbrush etc) If you are truly concerned just ask! Investigate!
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